Why are so many young adults finding themselves in the midst of a quarter-life crisis?



           So, it’s the last semester of uni, and like your peers, you’re determined to get out there and make all of your goals and passions you’ve dreamed about come true. Nothing can get in your way. You are on a one-way road to a place called success. You feel powerful, almost omnipotent. Having all the energy and strength you need. Even that 10-page essay and presentation due tomorrow morning can’t hold you down. Nothing is too big a task!

          A recent survey I took asked 100 students (selected randomly) on campus whether they thought they would in someway be famous in their lifetime, 57% said: “Yes”. A lot of students finish college with enthusiasm and gusto as they enter the “real world.” Unfortunately, that vigor for life doesn’t last long for most.

I have a lot of older friends who are now well into their careers, graduating with degrees in business, engineering, and even law. They’ve all landed amazing internships leading them to eventually find those jobs they’ve coveted for the past 10 years. Now that their careers are under the belt, they face the a quarter-life crisis with a series of serious goals in life to achieve  (i.e.: getting married, moving out from their parents house, getting their first house, having kids, going back to the mother-land and volunteering).

This seems to be some form of torturous recurring theme, particularly in the lives of 20-something East African kids, or say, young adults. Maybe it’s that continuous voice they hear in the back of their heads from their father boast: “Oh my daughter will be a doctor when she grows up.”  Or, maybe, it’s just that feeling of responsibility they have to show their parents that they will not forget the sacrifices they’ve made to give them a better future.

Nonetheless, several years out of college reality kicks in hitting them hard where it hurts most. They finally admit to themselves while sitting in their snazzy offices on MSN chatting a way (on the clock I might add), that all those “right” choices they made have led to some overrated unattractive paths.

They start to realize, they never wanted to be a lawyer. They tell themselves: “I’ve always wanted to become a fashion designer, or travel, or learn about psychology.” The and’s , but’s, if’s, could go on for days.

Now, don’t get me wrong I’m not one to say I don’t respect careers in finance, law, or whatnot. There could very well be people out there who love numbers, and get butterflies in their stomach at the thought of calculators and pencils. They would love to give nothing more than to work at the World Bank, and my response to you is: “Way to go!”

However, to the ones out there bored out of their minds sitting in front of their laptops at work, going back and forth between the copy machine and their pencil sharpener. Telling themselves: “These incompetent dimwits I work for have no idea what’s still up my sleeve.”  My advice to you is: … “It’s never too late to go back and start working on your real dreams.” You know…the ones you had at 14 when you thought you could rule the world all from your bedroom.  Don’t settle for a job. Get a career! Don’t settle for Mr. / Ms. Right now, go out there and find you’re soul mate!  As, long as you know what you want in life, you don’t have to accept second best.   If all else fails remember these words…I am invincible, as long as I’m alive- J.M



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One response to “Why are so many young adults finding themselves in the midst of a quarter-life crisis?

  1. Moe

    I am guilty as charged. On msn right now…lol

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